Fr. ROY CIMAGALA,
October 9, 2018
ESPECIALLY in our public
discourses regarding ticklish issues, we need to see to it that we
are most aware of a persona-non-grata that is called pride. We
should keep it at bay, exerting appropriate effort to resist its
many strong impulses and urges.
Pride always spoils
dialogue. It feeds on our self-interest to the point of making us
deaf and blind to the points, let alone, the valid points, of the
others. It usually sources its strength more from feelings than from
reason, more from our own estimation of things than from faith that
gives us the full picture of things and leads us to the common good.
Besides, pride usually has
bad manners and employs bad language. It always tries to dominate
the conversation, using bullying tactics. It is more interested in
scoring more points than in earnestly looking for what is true and
fair. Its logic clearly follows the path of selfishness. Charity is
a complete stranger in pride. Suffering and humiliations play no
positive role in pride.
When one, for example, is
accused falsely of something, pride would lead him to react very
badly, and even violently. He cannot stand being misjudged and
mistreated. His pride-stained sense of justice would immediately
give a knee-jerk response along the lines of the tooth-for-a-tooth
law of the wild.
Pride leads one to see
things superficially. There is no depth in its considerations. It
gets entangled in the externals and in the appearances. Besides, it
usually assumes a rigid attitude, unable to be flexible and to adapt
to different circumstances. It makes a person one-track-minded. A
proud person is always closed-minded.
Letís remember what Christ
said about new wine in new wineskins. It is a lesson about the need
to adapt to different situations without forgetting that we have to
put wine into wineskins, that is, without losing focus on what is
essential and of absolute value. (cfr Lk 5,33-39) There are things
that need to change and things that have to remain unchanged. These
days there is a need to know which is which.
Pride is notorious for its
highly divisive effects. When pride dominates the discussion, it is
possible that both parties can also be both wrong, missing the real
point. They can dirty and destroy each other with no constructive
result in the end.
We have to be extremely
conscious of the workings of pride in us, because it is so embedded
in our systems that we often would not know we are being victimized
by it. A saint once said that pride is so strongly incorporated in
our life that it would only disappear twenty four hours after our
The antidote to pride is,
of course, the virtue of humility. In the context of our
discussions, humility is lived when one is strongly motivated to
find truth under Godís guidance. The search for what is true and
fair in our discourses cannot and should not simply be guided by our
own research and reasoning.
Allowing God to guide us,
always asking for the light of the Holy Spirit, will help us to find
truth and fairness in charity. With God, we would know how to react
to any situation in the course of our dialogues, whether things go
well or not. We would follow closely the example of Christ who is
ďthe way, the truth and the life.Ē
With Christ, our motives
will always be pure, and our ways prudent. With Christ, we would
know how to react properly to anything in the course of our
exchanges. We would be willing to suffer, and even to die, for the
truth. The negative things that we can experience in our dialogues
would not dampen our spirit, nor the positive things spoil us.
This kind of humility
should be earnestly pursued and developed to prevent pride from
spoiling our discussions of any issue.